Is Love Even..?

 Is Love Even..?

I learn so much from my clients and it is to the extent that I don't necessarily think of another way to learn, books were never my poison, so audio/visual is what gauges my attention usually. 

So I see people arguing in counselling rooms, making up to each other when the bulb lights, and making sense of themselves and their relationships to find a conclusion to land on! 

I often wonder what would tell if they are in love and if they are, is it enough to sustain a relationship? Well, my answer is no. 

Love is not a practical solution to a lack of emotional compatibility, lemons that life throws at you, the upheaval of relationships, social instability, financial setbacks, health issues and well everything else that you get screwed by. 

So brother, what do you do? How do you determine that this is "the one"?

Make a list of what's ideal for you and another list that tells you what you wouldn't tolerate in a relationship. Now if you haven't written that 'your human' should be a non-toxic, emotionally evolved, content human being, cross both your lists. 

You have been just scratching the surface and you have no idea what values you NEED in your relationship. You have been following a pattern which is generally unsuccessful in maintaining a healthy long-term relationship and you are in complete denial of your own self-awareness. 

So you see where we're going? We're going, rather, coming back to you.