Psycholicious Mary

 Is Love Even..? I learn so much from my clients and it is to the extent that I don't necessarily think of another way to learn, books were never my poison, so audio/visual is what gauges my attention usually.  So I see people arguing in counselling rooms, making up to each other when the bulb lights, and making sense of themselves and their relationships to find a conclusion to land on!  I often wonder what would tell if they are in love and if they are, is it enough to sustain a relationship? Well, my answer is no.  Love is not a practical solution to a lack of emotional compatibility, lemons that life throws at you, the upheaval of relationships, social instability, financial setbacks, health issues and well everything else that you get screwed by.  So brother, what do you do? How do you determine that this is "the one"? Make a list of what's ideal for you and another list that tells you what you wouldn't tolerate in a relationship. Now if you haven't writt...

Ways To Mock Mental Health  People are afraid to seek help and treatment because they may be judged, ridiculed and shunned by others or they may judge themselves and as a result, many individuals live in silence about their undiagnosed mental health disorders. Many of us shame or stigmatize mental health and they do not even know it. Casually using terms such as “depressed” or ‘OCD” to describe daily feelings Overusing these terms in everyday vocabulary to express your immediate feelings without realizing these terms should not be so loosely used. These are clinical disorders that affect individuals and families all over the world. By using these terms loosely to describe a present mood or attitude, it trivializes these mental health conditions and as a result, many people do not take these disorders seriously when in fact they are devastating for many. Referring to others as “psycho” or “crazy” Catch yourself if you use these adjectives to insult individuals when these insults act...

  WITHDRAWN The growing sense of detachment from your social environment is much deep-rooted than what you see on the surface. It can imply that there are issues that you haven't confronted yourself with which causes a disconnect with your social, ideal and real self. This is one of the core factors behind so many nonsensical emotions as well as behaviors that you may experience.  Something very cliché but worth noting is that your relationship with yourself is neglected that maybe cause withdrawal from your social environment!  " I don't enjoy things that I used to!" or "I am not as interested in other people anymore!"  We’re incredibly dependent on others, and so the way that our minds work, the way that our bodies function, is all regulated by our social relationships. It is a fact about us, social animals, and even the quietest people amongst us need a companion.  Humans are generally adaptive, therefore adjusting to unique scenarios simply requires the ...

Ready For Love? Get you a plant and take care of it, pet a goldfish, and then try to find you a human; train yourself to love.  An interesting concept about love is its very definition. "I love working out", "I love my wife", "I love a strong cappuccino." 3 different subjects but one word to describe how you feel about something, interesting! Like happiness, love doesn't have a graph, it cannot be objectified; I regret to inform you that not even one definition is capable of fully explaining it.  Love resides right where the heart neither rushes nor it slows down, it is an equilibrium of emotions. However, it is not anything near perfection, it'll always be subjective, always individual and usually there won't be an objective measurement except one, how whole it makes you feel ? Not over or under-fed, just enough to make you feel content. I know, easier said than understood, it'll make sense eventually though. Why rush?  Love does need effo...

Mental Health Diction Mental, retarded, psycho, and mad are just some of the terms that were changed in decent diction used for mental health in the past century or more. I came across an interesting concept which explained that it has nothing to do with the word but the meaning attached to it by an individual or the community in general. It could be to express humour, disgust, anger,  and even to  insult and instigate  someone, it's very petty if you pay some attention but it is the reality of our lack of empathy as well as awareness.  It is definitely funny that if I call you diabetic, it isn't as humiliating but if for example, I say "you're bipolar " (mood disorder) it is immediately offensive, we feel accused, targeted and whatnot.  So it's wise to ask yourself, when can you joke about mental health? What is the boundary between being insensitive and realistic? Is mental health labelling used for sympathies?  These are important questions as we're a...

                                                     Why seek within yourself?                                                 Your mental health today is not a consequence of what happened this morning or last night, that's mood dear reader. It is determined by so much more: genetics, environment, childhood experiences, core memories, relationships with others, and self. That's not all though! I have 5 years of experience in counseling and I have seen clients stuck at what happened when they were 9 which created their schema i.e. their perspective on life based on what they witnessed or endured at that time. You see, everything is connected and sometimes nothing is. It could be a plain neuro-chemical imba...